Some people just don't get it (me)

Yeah, definitely don't pester her. Don't seem like you care that much either. Address it with more of a curiosity perspective. If you're really scared that what hapenned last time is going to happen this time at least you won't putting putting that much of yourself out there. Your interest in her feeling is genuine but I would just be more careful about how I go about showing interest. I know I'm all anti-games and stuff but if I had been down that road once before, I would just take a different route.