Women, crying, & stuff

[Robert]

Addict - if you were in the military you'd be making less money, so that rather contradicts your point. And you'd probably be in Iraq.

I understand where you are coming from and you sound as though you are questioning your commitement. I would weigh heavily the short term gains of changing things to the importance of having this woman as your wife.

This is something the two of you will have to work out. YOu got into this marriage with full knownledge of how she is, dont expect her to change because it would be best for you. She souds comfortable/happy with the situation she's in. If she wont change it on her own and/or ask for your help; no work on your end will change that.

The things that actually matter in life cannot be purchased.

[Addict]

Originally Posted by Robert

Addict - if you were in the military you'd be making less money, so that rather contradicts your point. And you'd probably be in Iraq.

And I'd be happy with that. It would be an honor to serve. And chances are that by now, I'd be making a decent salary. That was 8 years ago.

I understand where you are coming from and you sound as though you are questioning your commitement. I would weigh heavily the short term gains of changing things to the importance of having this woman as your wife.

Yeah I do have to weigh my options. And honestly I started doubting my choice last night. Part of the reason for taking the job was the lack of tech jobs around here (unless you want help desk). Then I came home and there's a message on my answering machine about a Senior Network Admin job. Talk about bad timing. *ugh*

This is something the two of you will have to work out. YOu got into this marriage with full knownledge of how she is, dont expect her to change because it would be best for you. She souds comfortable/happy with the situation she's in. If she wont change it on her own and/or ask for your help; no work on your end will change that.

You're right. We've been together for 9 years. You'd think I know how she is by now. To compound things, when I came home last night she was looking over a job application. Why the hell couldn't she have gotten motivated 6 months ago?

Timing on the second job opp. and her finally seeking a new job just sucks. Plus we finally had a decent talk about things. I've already accepted the job with IBM. I would feel like such a tool if I declined it now. I haven't given my notice at my current job though.

Plus she's been crying all damn night and this morning. But not like the "I hate you for doing...blah blah". She was genuinely upset. That shit gets to me easily.

The things that actually matter in life cannot be purchased.

Yes they can. You need a dwelling. That costs money. You need food. That costs money. You need love. And let's face it, that's costs money. Either in the form of keeping the wifey content or in RR's case, getting a hooker.

[Racing Rice]

Originally Posted by Addict

...or in RR's case, getting a hooker.

Hey listen you ass.. You know I don't have to pay for sex.. I have a Myspace account.

[Robert]

Originally Posted by Addict

And I'd be happy with that. It would be an honor to serve. And chances are that by now, I'd be making a decent salary. That was 8 years ago.

Yeah I do have to weigh my options. And honestly I started doubting my choice last night. Part of the reason for taking the job was the lack of tech jobs around here (unless you want help desk). Then I came home and there's a message on my answering machine about a Senior Network Admin job. Talk about bad timing. *ugh*

You're right. We've been together for 9 years. You'd think I know how she is by now. To compound things, when I came home last night she was looking over a job application. Why the hell couldn't she have gotten motivated 6 months ago?

Timing on the second job opp. and her finally seeking a new job just sucks. Plus we finally had a decent talk about things. I've already accepted the job with IBM. I would feel like such a tool if I declined it now. I haven't given my notice at my current job though.

Plus she's been crying all damn night and this morning. But not like the "I hate you for doing...blah blah". She was genuinely upset. That shit gets to me easily.


Yes they can. You need a dwelling. That costs money. You need food. That costs money. You need love. And let's face it, that's costs money. Either in the form of keeping the wifey content or in RR's case, getting a hooker.

My point was you can't fault her for who she is, you knew it before. Maybe you need to set more realistic goals that allow you to balance both marriage and your aspirations.

Love, good relationships and health cannot be bought. You can but close subsititues but the real deal cannot be bought. Your marriage to your wife is more important then any job you could ever get. FYI - if you were in hte military I would put money on the fact you wouldn't be married to this woman.