Well, it finally happened.

[ebpda9]

tell her you are pregnant and she has to stick around .

why don't you try to go to some therapy toghether ?

[JDMFantasy2k]

hmm i seem to have overcome a similar situation.

About a month ago my girl had been acting weird as well. Turns out she had started talking to her friend and found out she had feelings for him. So we talked it out and went on vacation to florida which really made things better. My girl was also having the winter depression thing going on.

So maybe you guys need like a mini honeymoon and some warm weather to break her out of the duldrums and you guys can realize what you have and make it work.

good luck man. women are fucked up

[Racing Rice]

Originally Posted by hondaman-iac

why don't you try to go to some therapy toghether ?

That would go over about as well as telling her she is depressed.

So maybe you guys need like a mini honeymoon and some warm weather to break her out of the duldrums and you guys can realize what you have and make it work.

I'd love to do that. I'll have to see what I can do. I can't get her to leave the dogs anywhere though, so it makes that a little more difficult.

[CD5Passion]

wow i really hope this all works out for you. I hate how when you think a girl can be so mature, they turn around do something so childish. my last girlfriend and I broke up because of a situation like that. She refused to work anything out and just left, of course after she started talking to her first boyfriend again..mother fucker...

anyways, maybe you should talk to her about possibly going to marriage counseling or something? idk you just need to get her to open up or something.

I know when I finally get married, I refuse to be another statistic. To me divorce is not a option (unless of course it is absolutly the only thing). Last time i checked the vows say "through better or for worst"..stupid women

[Racing Rice]

Originally Posted by CD5Passion

I know when I finally get married, I refuse to be another statistic. To me divorce is not a option (unless of course it is absolutly the only thing). Last time i checked the vows say "through better or for worst"..stupid women

I agree 100%.. I do not want to get a divorce unless there is just no way to bring it back. I will do everything in my power to make this relationship work.

[JDMFantasy2k]

Originally Posted by Racing Rice

I agree 100%.. I do not want to get a divorce unless there is just no way to bring it back. I will do everything in my power to make this relationship work.

good man

i think my relationship just took a giant shit tongiht, i'll post later with juicy details

[Mischief]

Originally Posted by JDMFantasy2k

good man

i think my relationship just took a giant shit tongiht, i'll post later with juicy details

heh bro your relationship sounds alot like the one I have with my ex.. we're good for a bit then something happens, then we're good again a day or two later until the next thing

[Racing Rice]

I know where both of you are coming from. I've been here before and it sucks, but the last time I wasn't married.

Just think about it this way. I'd really like to be 100% positive that something is indeed going on, before I do anything that I can or will regret later. I am being cautious, and I'm not going to just forget that all of this has happened. I've always been the kind of person to get one the benefit of the doubt. Sure it has come back to bite me in the ass, but I've also been wrong before as well. Sooner or later the truth will uncover itself, and when it does I'll be ready for it.

It's easy to sit and say I would do this or I would do that until you're actually faced with the situation, because a lot of times reality isn't as clear cut as it is when you play the situation in your head. It is better to have tried and failed, then to have never tried at all.

I'll try to keep you guys updated if anything new happens. Now, I wait strategically.

[nonovurbizniz]

Originally Posted by Racing Rice

I agree 100%.. I do not want to get a divorce unless there is just no way to bring it back. I will do everything in my power to make this relationship work.

Trying to avoid being one statistic makes you another...

I'm not trying to fan the flames or anything... but if you ask me even talking to some guy married or not CROSSES THE LINE... she LIED and hid stuff from you...

I went through similar problems with my wife a couple months ago only she spent money (a LOT) w/o telling me and lyed about it...

Same thing she won't confront much less admit she has problems and it's making our lives SUCK...

We have 2 kids already so it makes it MUCH worse splitting up but at this point I really don't see any other option...

In my case we could stay married as long as I shut up and let her be whoever she is... but that's not good for the family... and me constantly trying to get her to do things she's NOT going to do is not good for the family... frankly splitting up provides the best family situation (at least that's how I see it now)... of course financially I CAN NOT afford to move out... so we're still together for now.

Now I don't know any details about your situation other than what I just read... and I'll say the same thing to you as I said to my wife...

" You LIED... it doesn't matter what it was about, you lied... I didn't KNOW you lied when you did... how can I EVER trust you?"

Seriously... anyone willing to cross the line and break the trust of marriage is NOT ready for marriage.

Chances are if you try to make it work your just gunna end up being the nice guy that finished WAY WAY WAY last... instead of just last.

Do you want to deal with being single now and getting divorced now or when you've already built up savings have joint assetts... make more money... are older or god forbid have kids together???

I'm not saying drop out the first chance you get... but if my wife was having regular secret conversations (whether or not they were sexual or led anywhere) I'd be out the door in under a second.

If SHE wanted to work things out it would take a LOT of convincing for me to EVER even CONSIDER getting back together... and frankly I don't think I would even if I believed her.

Really not trying to incite you just sharing my opinions on my similar-ish situation.

[V8killimports]

First thing first you need to go to marriage counseling with your wife. If there are issues and she really does want to work things out she will do ANYTHING to do it.. if she doesn't want to go to marriage counseling the next step I would take is getting a lawyer because she obviously doesn't want to work things out. Regardless of all of this I would also hire a PI to see what exactly she is up to from day to day. Some people say this is distrustful, but she has lost your trust as it is and has no reason to be trusted.

I would not hesitate on doing any of this either. I would suggest maggiage counseling in the next day or so. Also visit this site.. www.marriagebuilders.com and check out their forums. They have lots of good information and people to ask questions and should have some great advice.

[JDMFantasy2k]

Originally Posted by V8killimports

First thing first you need to go to marriage counseling with your wife. If there are issues and she really does want to work things out she will do ANYTHING to do it.. if she doesn't want to go to marriage counseling the next step I would take is getting a lawyer because she obviously doesn't want to work things out. Regardless of all of this I would also hire a PI to see what exactly she is up to from day to day. Some people say this is distrustful, but she has lost your trust as it is and has no reason to be trusted.

I would not hesitate on doing any of this either. I would suggest maggiage counseling in the next day or so. Also visit this site.. www.marriagebuilders.com and check out their forums. They have lots of good information and people to ask questions and should have some great advice.

well said.

As for the 2 previous posts i can see where you're both comming from. Yeah you have that instinct, leave her and be done with it. But at the same time it seems like you don't want to accept it so you play nice guy and try to fix things. I'm the same way. I'd say at this point continue with your plan jeremy, you don't really have anything to lose at this point so you might as damn well try. Good luck man!