Why do people want someone else when...

[BlackWolf]

If it's one thing I've learned over the years, it's that NO ONE will change if they DON'T want to. You have to accept the person for who/what they are. If they change anything, it will be on their terms and their time, in other words, when and if they feel like it. You could possibly influence a decision they make sometimes but don't even BEGIN to think that you CHANGED them. It may have been just a fluke that they agreed with you at that time and it may not be permament. Be with someone because you like them the way they are, not because what you can make them out to be. Changing anything comes from personal retrospect, not from what someone else makes you do. Think about what you hate to do/eat/drink, whatever, then think about someone MAKING you do that because THEY want you to. You'd begin to resent that action then eventually them, like a snowball effect. Definately not what you'd want to be in a relationship for.