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11-21-2003, 11:50 PM

Lets see how to start this

I met this girl through a friend of mine a while back, we hit it off pretty well and whatnot. Then we start talking more through AIM and become pretty good friends. As you all can figure for it being posted in this forum that i started to fall for her... go figure. I guess the feelings between us eventually become mutual. So I keep asking her to do things together. It seems that everytime i ask to do something though, she is always busy.
Some of you that may know me outside of HS I didnt think much of it. Just went on my merry way. Then i finally get the nerve to ask her to my high school christmas dance/social thingy. She says yes and everything is okey dokey. Then last night when i called her she said that her mom wouldent let her go, because I'm 16 and have a car. So right now I'm sitting here thinking well **** now i gotta find a new date. Plus her mom wont let us go out on dates or anything like that.

As i posted in the why guys dont call thread, I'm not a real big phone person. I actually hate calling people unless it is to say something that needs to be said or to make plans. For some reason, who knows why I just feel the need to call her. I cant get her off my mind, and it's driving me insane.

Her parents are separated, and her dad is cool with me (dosent that seem odd, its normally the other way around). But she dosent live with her dad most of the time and only goes over there every other weekend.

So here is the question, should i go for it and just wait for every other weekend to come when we MIGHT be able to do something together, or just cut off "pursuit". I know the common answer will be "well its up to you and just follow what you think is right." But I want to hear what you guys would do if you were in my situation.

mylittlecivic · 11-22-2003, 03:08 AM

wow you're only 16?

I dunno waht to say but that if she is really special to you then you should try to stick it out and maybe her mom might ease up a bit.

11-22-2003, 12:46 PM

yup only 16, i bet you all thought i was older

11-22-2003, 07:23 PM

Yeah I thought you were older.

Anyway I would try the every other weekend thing and then maybe after a while her mom will warm up to you.

GT40FIED · 11-23-2003, 11:24 PM

Hmmm...go over and kick her mom in the throat. Hehehe. No...seriously...do it.

11-24-2003, 09:41 AM

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Originally posted by GT40FIED
Hmmm...go over and kick her mom in the throat. Hehehe. No...seriously...do it.

I'm with this guy.

Racing Rice · 11-24-2003, 09:50 AM

Well you could always have a talk with her mom, but that could suck big ones.

If your only 16, how old is this chick? What about you just stay friends, seek other possibilities and see what happens in the future.

11-24-2003, 09:55 AM

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Originally posted by Racing Rice
Well you could always have a talk with her mom, but that could suck big ones.

If your only 16, how old is this chick? What about you just stay friends, seek other possibilities and see what happens in the future.

Who wants to do that? Being "friends" with a girl you like sucks rocks. Not to mention it's not really possible because you aren't truly "friends." There's that piece of you that wants/needs more.

BlackWolf · 11-24-2003, 10:04 AM

Hmm, touchy. Could you find out more from the girl as to why the mom doesn't like you? Sounds like some info might be missing. How much younger is she than you? From the beginning, it sounds like she was trying to get you dis-interested by blowing you off on possible dates before so something is going on, just don't know what yet. Depending on whatever reason it may be, prepare yourself for possibly letting go of the "pursuit". She may be ok with dealing with it but mom won't and you would still have to deal with her, every other weekend. IHMO, the only reason she gave you (or that you wrote) is that you're 16 and have a car? That's a pretty lame excuse and also I don't like the way she's putting everything off on mom. Mom may BE like that, we don't know, but the girl needs to give you the real reason(s). Sorry to be so blunt, it's too early and I haven't had enough coffee yet.

GT40FIED · 11-24-2003, 12:04 PM

Blackwolf seems to have hit the nail on the head. Take it from a guy who knows a thing or two about being put off and lame excuses (man...that doesn't make me sound good, does it?). She gave you the run around and then when you finally get your foot in the door she pawns everything off on mom because she knows you're not going to approach her mom about it. I'll bet if you actually DID have a word with mom you'll find she knows little or nothing about the whole situation. Unless this girl is like 13 or 14 (which would make you kinda sick), very few moms are gonna forbid their daughters from dating a guy just because he's got a car and is a year older. Pursue her at your own risk but you better be ready to cut this one lose. better to put one is the "loss" column than lie to yourself about what's really going on.

11-24-2003, 08:02 PM

she is gonna be 15 in a few months, and her mom set up that no dating thing until your 16 bullshit... who knows

BlackWolf · 11-25-2003, 07:46 AM

I'd still let it go bro. Sounds like the beginnings of a full blown drama you don't need and besides she's still only 14.

IALuder · 11-25-2003, 01:02 PM

been there done that. just let her go and be friends and try agian later. get to know her alot more and become friends with her mom. talk to her and there. just dont be blunt and make her mad.

11-27-2003, 05:01 PM

thats what i think im gonna do

11-21-2003, 11:50 PM	#1
Shot 2 Hel Posts: n/a	Issues i guess you could say Lets see how to start this I met this girl through a friend of mine a while back, we hit it off pretty well and whatnot. Then we start talking more through AIM and become pretty good friends. As you all can figure for it being posted in this forum that i started to fall for her... go figure. I guess the feelings between us eventually become mutual. So I keep asking her to do things together. It seems that everytime i ask to do something though, she is always busy. Some of you that may know me outside of HS I didnt think much of it. Just went on my merry way. Then i finally get the nerve to ask her to my high school christmas dance/social thingy. She says yes and everything is okey dokey. Then last night when i called her she said that her mom wouldent let her go, because I'm 16 and have a car. So right now I'm sitting here thinking well **** now i gotta find a new date. Plus her mom wont let us go out on dates or anything like that. As i posted in the why guys dont call thread, I'm not a real big phone person. I actually hate calling people unless it is to say something that needs to be said or to make plans. For some reason, who knows why I just feel the need to call her. I cant get her off my mind, and it's driving me insane. Her parents are separated, and her dad is cool with me (dosent that seem odd, its normally the other way around). But she dosent live with her dad most of the time and only goes over there every other weekend. So here is the question, should i go for it and just wait for every other weekend to come when we MIGHT be able to do something together, or just cut off "pursuit". I know the common answer will be "well its up to you and just follow what you think is right." But I want to hear what you guys would do if you were in my situation.

11-23-2003, 11:24 PM	#5
GT40FIED Best...mod...ever Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: At the end of the longest line Age: 43 Posts: 7,451	Hmmm...go over and kick her mom in the throat. Hehehe. No...seriously...do it. __________________ 1984 1/2 Mustang GT350 #842, Faster than you...nuff said Anna Fan Club President/Dictator Someday, in the event that mankind actually figures out what it is that this world actually revoles around, thousands of people are going to be shocked and perplexed that it was not them. Sometimes this includes me. "If you want a vision of the future, imagine a boot stamping on a human face - forever." - George Orwell Welcome to the new Amerika

11-24-2003, 09:50 AM	#7
Racing Rice Project Combat Honda Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Highland,OH Age: 45 Posts: 7,985	Well you could always have a talk with her mom, but that could suck big ones. If your only 16, how old is this chick? What about you just stay friends, seek other possibilities and see what happens in the future. __________________ Racing Rice

11-24-2003, 10:04 AM	#9
BlackWolf La Loba Loca Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Nor Cal Posts: 1,016	Hmm, touchy. Could you find out more from the girl as to why the mom doesn't like you? Sounds like some info might be missing. How much younger is she than you? From the beginning, it sounds like she was trying to get you dis-interested by blowing you off on possible dates before so something is going on, just don't know what yet. Depending on whatever reason it may be, prepare yourself for possibly letting go of the "pursuit". She may be ok with dealing with it but mom won't and you would still have to deal with her, every other weekend. IHMO, the only reason she gave you (or that you wrote) is that you're 16 and have a car? That's a pretty lame excuse and also I don't like the way she's putting everything off on mom. Mom may BE like that, we don't know, but the girl needs to give you the real reason(s). Sorry to be so blunt, it's too early and I haven't had enough coffee yet. __________________ Does the noise in my head bother you??

11-24-2003, 12:04 PM	#10
GT40FIED Best...mod...ever Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: At the end of the longest line Age: 43 Posts: 7,451	Blackwolf seems to have hit the nail on the head. Take it from a guy who knows a thing or two about being put off and lame excuses (man...that doesn't make me sound good, does it?). She gave you the run around and then when you finally get your foot in the door she pawns everything off on mom because she knows you're not going to approach her mom about it. I'll bet if you actually DID have a word with mom you'll find she knows little or nothing about the whole situation. Unless this girl is like 13 or 14 (which would make you kinda sick), very few moms are gonna forbid their daughters from dating a guy just because he's got a car and is a year older. Pursue her at your own risk but you better be ready to cut this one lose. better to put one is the "loss" column than lie to yourself about what's really going on. __________________ 1984 1/2 Mustang GT350 #842, Faster than you...nuff said Anna Fan Club President/Dictator Someday, in the event that mankind actually figures out what it is that this world actually revoles around, thousands of people are going to be shocked and perplexed that it was not them. Sometimes this includes me. "If you want a vision of the future, imagine a boot stamping on a human face - forever." - George Orwell Welcome to the new Amerika

11-22-2003, 12:46 PM	#3
Shot 2 Hel Posts: n/a	yup only 16, i bet you all thought i was older

11-22-2003, 07:23 PM	#4
Loki Posts: n/a	Yeah I thought you were older. Anyway I would try the every other weekend thing and then maybe after a while her mom will warm up to you.

11-24-2003, 08:02 PM	#11
Shot 2 Hel Posts: n/a	she is gonna be 15 in a few months, and her mom set up that no dating thing until your 16 bullshit... who knows

11-25-2003, 07:46 AM	#12
BlackWolf La Loba Loca Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Nor Cal Posts: 1,016	I'd still let it go bro. Sounds like the beginnings of a full blown drama you don't need and besides she's still only 14. __________________ Does the noise in my head bother you??

11-25-2003, 01:02 PM	#13
IALuder Registered User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Des Moines IA Age: 38 Posts: 7,908	been there done that. just let her go and be friends and try agian later. get to know her alot more and become friends with her mom. talk to her and there. just dont be blunt and make her mad. __________________ 93 Si H23vtec......soon to be 12lbs 95 Civic EX....automatic DD if you cant dazzle them with your brillance, baffle them with your bullshit.

11-27-2003, 05:01 PM	#14
Shot 2 Hel Posts: n/a	thats what i think im gonna do

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