Mean anything? (prefer ladies responses)

[pdiggitydogg]

Well, my old gf moved back from CO a week ago wednesday. On thursday I went over to get a key to her house to feed the cats and take care of their litter-box next week.

While we were together she kept asking me indirect questions about my sex/dating life...w/o actually saying "do you have one?" and "why not?".

I was never good at reading women so would I be wrong in thinking that she's looking for something?

Oh, and she mentioned that her family says that Im the only one that they want her to marry (this is the 2nd time Ive heard that in a yr). Does THAT mean anything?

Now, if it means what it think it does, I dont really think I should put up w/ her again...but probably would anyways because Im a masacistic fool for her.

What should I do? Anything?

one more thing - she kept writing things like "sometimes what you really wanted is where you left it" for her away messages before she moved home again.

Here's an idea, until she comes out and says anything dont waste your time trying to read into her actions.

[pdiggitydogg]

hmm if I had just thought of that I wouldnt have asked for some insight, now would I...

Sounds like she's trying to hint that she wants to get back with you...

Originally posted by pdiggitydogg
hmm if I had just thought of that I wouldnt have asked for some insight, now would I...

well until she says anything more then a few questions you have nothing to go on. It's truly a waste of time to attempt to read into a womans actions that are emotionally driven when women are emotional rollercoasters.

Hey just cause you ask doesn't mean people will have the answer. Look at it this way, its a hard call for you and you're in the middle. More then likely no one on this board can tell you what she means by it all other then her.

If you're interested in knowing, go ask her and dont waste your time reading between the lines when a simple 'lets go for a date if you're game' would figure it all out.

[IALuder]

just bring it out in the open. lay it out on the table. whats the worst that could happen?

[JDMFantasy2k]

i think i'm with SF on this one. Ask her how she really feels and then just say how you feel. After all if you guys have know eachother that long and whatnot then you both have nothing to be afaid of. If all else fails, bone her.

[Rob]

Originally posted by SFKing
just bring it out in the open. lay it out on the table. whats the worst that could happen?

that's what I would have said..........

[pdiggitydogg]

yeah Ive already decided that Im just going to do that...
And I have to wait a week, for her to get back, to do it...unfortunately.

[IALuder]

at lewast your waiting to talk about it in person instead of calling her.

[95DX]

keep in mind why you 2 broke up in the first place (what ever the reason) and think of would you really want to get back into something that may or may not have been the greatest thing you've had. I only say that cause I've seen people who get back with an ex, and whatever the problem was came back fairly quickly, and I say to myself wtf were you thinking if it didn't work before why would it work now. But then there are those who just needed time apart to find out that their ex was the right one for them

[IALuder]

its a two sided coin. call it in the air and hope your right.

[pdiggitydogg]

eh I already feel that Ive called it wrong...but what the hell

[IALuder]

might as well try, nothing to lose but everything to gian right?

[Rob]

Originally posted by SFKing
might as well try, nothing to lose but everything to gian right?

once again exactly....I would tell you my analogy on females but I would get beat up by all the females on this board........

[BlackWolf]

Ok, ok.........just talk to her. Take her somewhere like a park or something in public that's kinda quiet and talk to her. Start off with ....."you know, I think I've been getting some strange signals from you and we need to talk about what's going on........" Just be direct but firm, after all this is your sanity we're talking about.

[pdiggitydogg]

yeah Ive thought about that too
Think I might tell her to go w/ me for a drive and then hit up a park or something (If i knew where a close one was...)

Its just come to a point where Im tired of waiting for answers...so Im going to get them

Well? Any updates Pdigg?

[IALuder]

he has to wait a week.:o

[pdiggitydogg]

yeah...friday or saturday.......its starting to get to me

Oh...I totally forgot until a few minutes ago:

When she was living in CO she kept saying that I should move and go to school there and be her roommate.

[95DX]

if that ain't a signal I don't know what is. I don't know how she is but deffinately concider a public but private place (somewhere were there are other people but not jam packed) and find this stuff out

keep it public enough so she won't make a huge scene but private enough that she won't be suspicious(sp?) about why you chose there

I think males often read too much into the wrong things. Girls are messed up and unless they come out and say what they're thinking is it really worth all your energy?

[Rob]

Originally posted by biker's back
I think males often read too much into the wrong things. Girls are messed up and unless they come out and say what they're thinking is it really worth all your energy?

agreed...110%...and even if they do "come out and say what they're thinking" it can still be a pile of shit sometimes........

[pdiggitydogg]

well today we have a talk...

Originally posted by biker's back
I think males often read too much into the wrong things. Girls are messed up and unless they come out and say what they're thinking is it really worth all your energy?

I somehow think that after a guy and a girl break up...and she keeps trying to throw thee hints...I think that maybe she's trying to gain your interest again...she probably wants you to like her again...or else why would she even bother with you???

Originally posted by Kool-Aid
I somehow think that after a guy and a girl break up...and she keeps trying to throw thee hints...I think that maybe she's trying to gain your interest again...she probably wants you to like her again...or else why would she even bother with you???

You didn't answer anything but only posed another question. He is wondering why she is bothering with him.

If instead of throwing stupid hints she just came out and said something he would understand. Woman really over estimate our ability as males to understand these hints.

I did answer it...Im basically saying that a girl wouldn't bother with you if she didn't want anything from you...

[pdiggitydogg]

which now makes me wonder if she's going to ask for something like a big favor...

Originally posted by Kool-Aid
I did answer it...Im basically saying that a girl wouldn't bother with you if she didn't want anything from you...

here's a word of advise for the next time you communicate with a male...

SKIP TO THE PART WHERE YOU START YOUR SENTANCE WITH BASICALLY

all this extra filler and details help us none.

See, she could be playing the girl trick though. A lot of girls with their exes they just want to see if they can still "get" their ex. Then they'll be done again. It's a confidence thing I think.

[pdiggitydogg]

wouldnt be the first time thats happened either (not the same girl)

Unfortunately I dont have any news/information since I havent really talked to her...its getting pretty old.
I dont know if I'll even bother at this point

[IALuder]

i would. but then again its not my life.

you have nothing to lose by saying something... start acting like a man and talk to the woman.

[pdiggitydogg]

how about you just stop worrying about it

[IALuder]

sounds good. i like that idea pdig. it was never really are buisness anyways.

[pdiggitydogg]

Im not going to get into the whole story, just thought Id update

I was flat out rejected

Originally posted by pdiggitydogg
Im not going to get into the whole story, just thought Id update

I was flat out rejected

But see, who cares at least you talked to her about it. Next time you might realize you're reading too much into and save yourself the brain cells.

But either way you're no worse off.

Hey dude, I know the feeling Ex-es and their ways of manipulating us to think they want us again or whatever so you confront them and it leads to fight/whatever happens...Odd part is in a few weeks it'll be the same that it was before the fight happens and it gets pretty funny...that is considering you guys got in a fight. I'm just stating the experiences of my last relationship.