Broke up with Fiance 5 months ago, just kicked her out. Need advice

[2000Pimpinex]

With all the girlfriend topics lately, I thought I would post mine and see if anyone has advice. My fiance and I were dating for 2 years. I broke up with her because I didn't think the relationship could go any further. Besides that, we were having some problems that didn't seem to ever get resolved. I couldn't overcome our differences so I decided it was best to end it. I continued to let her live with me until school was out. That was a mistake!! 2 days ago we talked and I told her it would be best to go back home so we could both move on.
Its kinda hard to start a new relationship, with your ex living with ya, still. Ok, still following along? I was trying to hook up with a girl while all of this was going on. Mistake #2. I should've waited till she was completely gone before pursuing other interests. The new interest wasn't to happy with that. Maybe a trust factor. I can understand that, my fault.
My question - What can I say to the new girl to try and get the trust back or to get her to realize that the ex is completely gone??
Sorry for the long post!

[Racing Rice]

Are you crazy son!!!!

Besides beggin and pleading... Try to tell her the truth. If she cant understand that, then shes probably not that nice of a person and you should move on.:o

[2000Pimpinex]

This is a complicated situation. I have strong feeling for the new girl. We are very good friends already. I've told her why my ex was living there. I told her that I didn't want to see my ex quit school because of me. That was the truth. I guess I'm just nice.
I think she just likes busting my chops over this. I know that if the ex was out of the house a long time ago when we started taling then we would be going out.
She is a wonderful person so I'm sure it will all work out. At least I hope so!!

[ebpda9]

oh boy, not another girlfriend thread. j/k

well if the new gf accepts the fact that ur x is living with u means that she really cares about you. if not, ohhhhhhhh well.... opinions are split here.

[2000Pimpinex]

Yeah, I feel ya. The ex is totally gone know though. And the new girl isn't my GF. Not yet anyway.

[Racing Rice]

It all boils down to trust... If she honestly doesnt trust you then Id say forget about it, cause its probably not going to work out anyway. But hopefully shes just giving you a hard time and you can work things out. Its hard to try to understand the Opposite sex.. I know, cause Ive been trying for years. But you just have to know how to communicate with them, which always takes some work.

[2000Pimpinex]

D*mn straight it does. Females are hard to understand. But I truely think she is giving me a hard time. We will see what transpires.

Thanks

[Racing Rice]

Sucks that it just doesnt pay to try to be the good guy tho does it.

[Accord Man]

I understand your situation..

I also understand from where the new girl is coming from.. If I met a girl who's living with her ex.. I wouldnt exactly be fond of the idea.

For how long will your ex be living with you?

Cause IMO, if you wanna take things to the next level with your new girl, while you're living with the old one.. You're kinda asking for trouble.

[2000Pimpinex]

That was my problem. I didn't realize that it would cause so much fuss until after. My ex lived with me for about a year. Then we broke up. She still lived there for about another 4 months. I realized the situation wasn't going to get better with her there so I asked her to leave. I resolved the situation. Just wished I would've done it sooner.

[Accord Man]

oh.. if she's leaving, then its cool (for your situation)..

[Racing Rice]

How did you see it working???!!! New girlfriends/boyfriends arent usually fond of Ex's anyway.. Wether you living with them or not..

I cant think of many of my Ex's that liked eachother for one reason or another. Thats why you dont date friends Ex's.. its just asking for trouble.. An Ex is an Ex... That usually makes for some sour situations..

[Addict]

Man that's a messed up situation. Nice of you to let her finish school & all, but I think I would have been uncomfortable as hell living with her.

Well, like others said talk to her.
Make her understand that you don't want to be reponsible for ruining someone else's future and were just being nice. Tell her that she moved out now and it's all cleared up and your a free man.
Also tell her yes she can have sex in the car (even if you feel opposite still say this, it arouses women!), hood, trunk, top of car, and many other erotic places. lol j/k DO NOT SAY THIS, I REPEAT DO NOT SAY THIS.
use what I said at the very top though!

if your well in doubt show her the meat stick, she won't have any problems wanting to stay with you no matter what

and maybe if your ex is hott drop her off at one of the guys here lol

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[ebpda9]

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if r were spammin there would be many useless replys

nothin like that goin on here

[2000Pimpinex]

Thanks for all the replies, whether they were just useless spamming or not.

Originally posted by BrandonClaps
if your well in doubt show her the meat stick, she won't have any problems wanting to stay with you no matter what

LOL.....I prefer to call it Russel the Love Muscle!

Ok do you want to hear how a girl really thinks? Ya better hold on.....

Well it is like this she knows that you tow are broken up, but you two do live together threrfor you end up spending more time around her eventhough you are not together, what her issue may be ( or I would think if it were me in her shoes) what would happen if you two ( u and the new girl) got in to a fight? Would you cheat on her? Or maybe she would worry that she( the ex) may come on to you , or try to get you back. Either way I don't really think that the trust issue is with you, I think that she does not trust the ex, because lets face it girls SOME of us are just plain vindictive. So my suggestion is next time she busts your chops about it, tell her lets sit down and have a talk, and tell her your true feelings, thoughts, and then do something special to show her how much she means to you.

I am here from (8-4) but yor session is over for now. HEHE

[2000Pimpinex]

Well it is like this she knows that you tow are broken up, but you two do live together threrfor you end up spending more time around her eventhough you are not together, what her issue may be ( or I would think if it were me in her shoes) what would happen if you two ( u and the new girl) got in to a fight? Would you cheat on her? Or maybe she would worry that she( the ex) may come on to you , or try to get you back. Either way I don't really think that the trust issue is with you, I think that she does not trust the ex, because lets face it girls SOME of us are just plain vindictive. So my suggestion is next time she busts your chops about it, tell her lets sit down and have a talk, and tell her your true feelings, thoughts, and then do something special to show her how much she means to you.

Thanks for the great advice!!!

Originally posted by 2000Pimpinex


Thanks for the great advice!!!

No problem I am here till tuesday.........