Help Me Ladies Help ME

[IALuder]

ok today. i was sitting at home and my cell phone rang. i answered it and it was my sister. asking me to go to her work to meet a chick:chandra. chandra is fucking hot and i have always liked her. she never knew but that besides the point. she dumped her boyfriend 2 weeks ago and my sister is trying to hook me up with her. well i have her number and im to call her tommorow becuase she is busy tonight. to make plans for a date. well i dont know anything about her besides name age and what she looks like. thats all she knows about me to.

if you were her how would you want the first date to go?

[DsBlu01CivEX]

well....I'd want the date to go well if I were on a first date with a guy. But hey that's just me. I'm not sure if that's the answer you're looking for, cuz well it's a no brainer that you'd want the date to go well.

Are you looking for ideas for the first date?

[IALuder]

pretty much... like were to go and what to do type things.

[mylittlecivic]

what kind of work does she do?

[IALuder]

she doesnt really work. she is 16 almost 17. works at B-Bops AKA fast food.

Take her out to dinner...that way you can talk to her and get to know eachother...and go out to a movie or take a walk on the beach of you're close to one.
Done deal right there.

[IALuder]

i was thinking of dinner, pretty expensive dinner too. as far as walking on the beach, sorry i live in Iowa. ill check out the movie idea. thanks.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

ugh dinner and a movie is so cliche! Dinner is definitely a good idea, but don't overwhelm the girl with a crazy expensive dinner especially on a first date. Something like Outback or Chilis or Damons would be a good idea I think. They're nice, but not too expensive. I vote no on the movie though. Going mini golfing or batting cages (you get the idea) I think is a better idea. You still get to talk to each other and you can have a lil competition and goof off with one another a lil bit better than if you're at a restaurant.

[mylittlecivic]

yeah i agree with D

[Grip72]

i have the answer
oh wait, no i don't..never reallly been on a "date" before

why dont you ask her a few questions while you're on the phone with her, one being 'what would you feel like doing?" It never really hurts to ask, but hey dont take it from me... guess what she'd like to do from all that you know of her. I hear hot girls like movies.. jks

Ask her bro, best way and she'll also figure you're interested in her opinion on things.

[IALuder]

well i called her and we talk for awhile, i got to know her basic personallty. so i think i will go to dinner and batting cages. she plays soft ball doesnt like it but she does by force of perants. i used to play baseball 8-9 yrs ago. so it should be interesting! i think ill take her to diner at the olive garden or where ever she wants to go.

thanks D for the great Idea.

[2ndGenTeg]

NO MOVIES!!! Movies are for post-third-date. Think about it- how well can you get to know someone in a dark room, both staring straight ahead not looking at each other, when you're not supposed to talk? I'd say go to dinner- a long dinner. Plan to be there at least an hour (maybe two). Order an appetizer AND dessert to make it last longer. Sit, talk, and get to know each other, but the girls are right- expensive dinners are intimidating at first. Save it for the fifth or sixth- after you're both sure you're digging each other. Do it for no apparent reason, and surprise her- just make sure to tell her to dress up so you don't embarrass her at a nice place.

Take her someplace to do something fun- something where you're actually DOING something that will make her smile and laugh. Think about it- movies are okay, but how much FUN are you really having? On my first date with my girlfriend, we went to the aquarium, had a long dinner at this GREAT Italian place (not expensive, just good food and a fun place), and went for a carriage ride through downtown.

Put some thought into it- I guarantee she'll remember how much fun she had a lot more than how much money you spent. Whatever you do, make it unique, make it FUN, and make it something she'll remember and associate with you for a long time.

PS- icksnay on the oftballsay. Don't make her do something she doesn't want to. Seems like a no-brainer to me.

[IALuder]

well i still got to talk to her today. so well make plans tonights!

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by SFKing


thanks D for the great Idea.

hey no problem. I can always think of good ideas like that, but none ever actually happen to me. but I have them just in case one day I actually get to go on a date.:o

But yah I'm with 2nd....if she doesn't like playing softball, I don't know that she'll dig the batting cages all that much. I mean she might and I think you should pitch (no pun intended there) the idea to her. She might like the batting part of softball. Or she might just hate it because her parents make her play. Who knows....that'll give you something to discuss!!!

[IALuder]

well we were talking agian last night. i was actually surprised she called me before i could call her. i hope thats a good sign. as for the softball thing, she hates playing becuase she playing for her school and cant stand most of the player nor the coach. so i think itll work out perfectly!

and D if you ever want to go on a date just let me know ill take you out.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by SFKing
well we were talking agian last night. i was actually surprised she called me before i could call her. i hope thats a good sign. as for the softball thing, she hates playing becuase she playing for her school and cant stand most of the player nor the coach. so i think itll work out perfectly!

and D if you ever want to go on a date just let me know ill take you out.

ah yah that's why I didn't play school ball in high school. I just played summer leagues.


I'll let ya know anytime i'm in Iowa....

[IALuder]

you should, im promise yea a good time.

by the way tonight it the night we go on are first so called "date". wish me luck.

[BlackWolf]

have fun

[LadySi2000]

Have fun and be yourself!

[DsBlu01CivEX]

yah have a blast and let us know how everything went, and what you ended up doing.....

[IALuder]

well the night was perfect. it was 65 degress. the dinner was great, and the conversation went perfect. i being myself and she actaully liked it, which i found odd. after dinner, was really fun. we went mini golfing and walked threw a park. it was awesome. she got competitive at mini golf and whooped my ass. then the strole threw the park was tring but we had a good time getting to know one another. she told me at dinner she doesnt kiss or anything on the first date. but i did get a lot of hugs. were not dating, i didnt ask. i think it is still too soon. so she told me this friday she wanted me to meet a bunch of her friends. im just hoping her friends dont get on the 20 question deal.

[ShagginJet]

^Shiat.... maybe her friends are hot and she wants to pass you around the circle.. WOOT! :slap: Wake up fool, stop dreaming. :slap:

Awesome man, glad to hear it all went over well. Did anyone ask yet, is she hot?

[DsBlu01CivEX]

he said in his frist post that she's hot.....sheesh!


I'm glad to hear that the date went so well. Perfect first date plans to get to know each other. Good job!!!! And she's gotta be interested in you if she wants you to meet her friends.

Originally posted by SFKing
she is 16 almost 17. works at B-Bops AKA fast food.

Uuuummm...not to be a party-pooper here...but.....isn't that called statutory rape?

Anyway...

- Dzur

[DsBlu01CivEX]

I think he's only like 17 or 18.....and if they're not having sex then....no it's not considered statutory

[IALuder]

shes 16, 17 in 4 months. im pretty sure if we do have sex it will be becuase both of us wanted it. plus im not going to push that issue on her or anything like. i want this to actaully work out and hopefully last.

Meeting her friends is good, means she wants to know what they think of you. Also means afterwards shes probably going to want to meet some of your friends.

One of my x's was 2 years younger then me (she 16 me 18) and for some reason I figure around that age its important for them to show you to the friends. Have fun, you dont have to prove anything to them just be yourself.

Glad to see you had fun, try dinner on the beach sometime. And if you choose to have her meet your friends it can be made easier if you have a girl there for her to talk to (that is if you dont have girls that are just friends). We all know how guys around eachother, who's kidding who

Enjoy bro and take things one step at a time. oh oh.. and remember. EVERYONE'S NORMAL UNTIL YOU GET TO KNOW THEM. Love that line, just thought i'd throw it out there.

[IALuder]

thanks biker. ill keep that in mind.