The Perfect Guy

Originally posted by Kool-Aid
That especially goes with guys. That's why from now on I won't date any guys younger than 25 because every guy that I've kicked it with were confused, immature, and 18 all over again. I don't like that. I like a MAN...not no BOY.

Just like many of us like women instead of girls. A man and a woman is a great combination, boys and girls should save themselves for each other, hehe.

But let me put in a plug for the young men of the world, age doesn't by any means dictate maturity. I was more mature at 18 than my brother is today at 28. It just varies by person.....but I agree. I see a general trend in the women I know, they're all over 30. I'm 25, and all the women I've known are 30+.

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Yea...I know what you mean. You know that society states that women mature quicker than guys do...and I think that it is somewhat true...why do you think that it turned out that way?

[mylittlecivic]

maybe because girls are usually more emotional and things affect them with more impact before it happens with guys, so they learn to deal with stuff faster

[IALuder]

^ i would have to agree. most guys really dont care about things unless it effects there lifestyle. at least im kind of like that.

as for me im 17 (18 in 3 weeks!!) and very mature, but i got times were im just completely immature. then i realize damn what i do.

Yeah I just dunno about that. Maybe my background has just been a completely unrepresentative sample of people, but my general experience is that guys mature way before girls. I've known more mature 17-year-old guys than 25-year-old girls.....

I guess it all just depends on the definition of maturity. But I've always had more problems with dealing with girls and their lack of maturity level than guys......

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Wow...that's weird...I usually heard about guys being more immature than girls...but I think there are some guys out there who are mature...but thats like trying to find a needle in a haystack...

[IALuder]

you found one. but i wasnt in a haystack. wemon to mature faster. but some guys like me can controll it. we can mature when the times call for it and we can be completely
at other times.

When I go out I probablly don't seem mature but in the right situation i can grow up real fast

I think it's ok to be immature at times but when time comes for you to be mature then that's the real test...

[Wren57]

I've been told I'm as mature as most 30 year olds... it kinda sucks, to be honest. Being mature, I miss out on lots of fun because I realize, through my maturity, certain things. Example; my friends are at a party tonight, I have a paper due tomorrow... so I am mature and writing my paper (off/on HST). So... being immature has its advantages...

Yes. Being mature has it's advantages...but who will make it out at the end? Somebody who is going to school? or somebody who parties until they're 30??

Originally posted by Kool-Aid
Yes. Being mature has it's advantages...but who will make it out at the end? Somebody who is going to school? or somebody who parties until they're 30??

I guess the trick is to finish school early get a good job and party hard while your young and get it outta your system. Its not outta my system yet.


30 is kinda getting up there. i figured by then it was time to mature and start a family and stuff.

[IALuder]

after augest it will become very hard for me (18) to partie being in the marines and all. drinking is a no no according to the contract i signed.

All guys I've ever hung out with are very good at moderating/controlling their maturity. But I have known lots of guys who are just piss poor at it, or at least totally lack discretion of when to be mature.

My problem with the girls is that, while some of them are perhaps mature 99% of the time, they choose to show their immaturity at the worst point possible. Such as when trying to have a serious conversation and them just bursting out laughing thinking something you said is just the funniest thing they've ever heard, and you're wide open and vulnerable at that point. Way to be mature there.....

And then others are just, well, childish little girls too often for me to call them mature.

Maturity is a weird thing anyways.....just what is it? It's more of a social rule of how you expect someone to act in a given situation regardless of whether most people of that age would actually act that way.....strange.

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SFKing...are you in the marines?

So Adrieanne does the perfect guy have long hair or short hair?

[IALuder]

yes maam. im a demolation engineer.

I see...Im an AMOS right now in the desert....sucks!!!!!
My perfect guy has short hair...

[IALuder]

i have no hair! its almost 2cm long now tho. thanks to the good al marine style hiar cut. im still in the states. i got more trainning blowing things up. so itll be another 1yr before i get shipped.:o

[ShagginJet]

^^ What a hard life, blowing shit up.

[IALuder]

it can be. especially if your fat and you got a 10 sec fuse!
but the hard part was boot camp. that was fucking tough. goddamn i couldnt wait for those 16 weeks to get over. but it really did change my life style.

16 weeks? Damn...mine was 6 weeks...but it wasn't even hard at all...I would do it over again if I wanted to. Twas nuthin. I almost went into the marines...

[IALuder]

its some hard shit. but its worth the benefits i got. you can do anything you want if you put your mind to it. but as for the crucible. man i never thought those 3 days were going to get over.

What did you have to dof or the crucible? We had this thing called warior week...lasted for one week...

You have a US ARMY and you have Marines. Are marines Soldiers that work on a Ship or are they just soldiers that fight abroad?

My buddy was a marine on a ship and all he did was shoot sharks

[IALuder]

lol, you guys really have no clue?

marines do not fight on ships. thats the NAVY. as for your friend shooting sharks off a boat. what exactly did he do in the service?

Ha ha haha ha ha ha...

btw there are no perfect guys, just like they're are no perfect women. You can only hope that the things that first bring you to the relationship with a person are still there in time and that if they fad away there are new things to keep the both of you happy with eachother.

Perfection is a joke.... and so are most women when it comes to this topic.

[IALuder]

i agree no one is perfect.

What do you mean...women are a joke when it comes to this topic??

[IALuder]

im going to bite my tougne.

Why? Don't bite your tongue...put it to good use...but you wouldn't know what to do with it...ha ha ha

[GT40FIED]

I think that (perhaps) what Rob means is that women like to drone on and on about how there aren't any perfect guys out there when they themselves are flawed.Besides...your "perfect" person is so subjective. Everyone's got a different idea of what it is. It can't really be summed up in one diatribe.

When you honestly ask a woman what makes a great guy for her the answers are so vague and general that its a joke. Most of them come down to... tall, nice eyes, respectful, caring, easy to talk to and funny. But see there is a ton more that plays into this then people let on. someone who fits this mold still might not be someone you're attracted to.

Now what I wonder is why someone even cares about what a bunch of women think are the 'perfect guys.' Just as much as ones mans rice is anothers fav car, perception of what makes a perfect man will vary from woman to woman. Just as much as the perfect guy, however i think guys see it alot simply then women (lets not get into that).

None the less, I think its so tipical that a bunch of women talk about 'their perfect' guy. The women talking, bitch and feeling sorry about life and how they cant seem to find the right ones are the ones not in decent relationships, but dont bother to do anything about it.

You rarely hear a happy woman talking about what her perfect man is like, because she's either found it or thinks shes found it. Either way shes happy for the moment. But just as you can watch a woman be hot one moment and then cold the next and nothings changed about your eviorment the samething goes for relationships. This is because women are more emotional creatures then males and this complicates things.

Take one of your gfs thats never really held down a steady relationship. She'll blame it on never finding the right guy. But hey news flash people, it doesnt take as much for a guy to want to stay with a girl as it does for a girl to want to stay with a guy. Girls need more, nothing wrong with that but the girls complaining about not finding a nice guy should look inwards before they point the fingure at others. More often then not its themselves that are the problem. Bad past, emotional issues, working too much, scared.. you name it. This all leads to a relationship ending badly or hell not even starting.

Dont get me wrong by all this, in no way am I putting women down. I love the woman I'm with and God willing if things keep going this way I see no reason to change things between us. So I dont say this is anything but 'this is what i've seen' type thing. Women talk more about this stuff but do less, guys (i've seen) talk less and do more.

Does that explain it?

Ok...you should write a book or something...naming what we think would be a perfect guy was just a simple question. You were woman bashing...and that wasn't right. If it bothers you that much then develop your own post asking what a perfect woman would be. Of course nobody will ever find a perfect mate...it was just "girl talk"... this was not to be taken seriously buddy...

Originally posted by Kool-Aid
Ok...you should write a book or something...naming what we think would be a perfect guy was just a simple question. You were woman bashing...and that wasn't right. If it bothers you that much then develop your own post asking what a perfect woman would be. Of course nobody will ever find a perfect mate...it was just "girl talk"... this was not to be taken seriously buddy...

It might have only been talk but have you ever wondered why say guys want hotter and hotter girls. Or girls want guys that are fitter? People seem to be working towards this image that they will never be able to reach. Girls starve themselves to be skinny because they hear some guy likes girls who dont have alot of meat on them. Guys hit the gym at younger and younger ages to have muscles that they hear women want in their perfect man.

There is no harm in 'just talk' but sadly enough its never just talk and some impressionable mind is listening/reading this crap. It all plays up to society's image of the 'perfect' mate. When in reality what does it all matter knowing what someone else likes?

I wont bother asking what people think about their 'perfect mate' because its really irelevent (SP?) to living. As for the woman bashing, no I was only displaying one side of the coin, heres the other. (note not alot of guys sit around talking about the perfect girl, anywho)

Guys talk and play up how important looks on in women. Will pick up a girl because she looks good and then lead her on a relationship adventure as he plays games so that he might get in her pants. Alot of guys are less then truthful in their true feelings towards the girl they are with and often throw the love word around just in order to get some more a$$.

All this talk or compairing someones gf to a girl you're thinking of dating always leaves a perfecting good datable girl looking lacking. Compair her to the latest model/porn star you've grown up jacking off to and she'll never match up. All this talk about boobs and ass does little in finding the woman who is everything you actually need in a solid relationship, but clouds mens minds with the simple persuit of sex.

If you take a look at some of your guy friends who have always been single alot of them compair and find girls they have never talked to gone out with lacking on the simple messure she isnt fit enough to be seen with them. All this talk and media hype starts alot of men down the path of physical relationships and causal sex. it does little for the good women who are very attractive and supper nice. However it does serve good measure to confuse both parties.

when a guy says he cant find any decent girls and has never really dated anyone for any length of time it is probably more to do with him then he's willing to let on. Maybe its a bad relationship with his mother, the wrong desires to start a relationship, poor communication with women in the past bc his views of them have been altered by the porno stars that do all these dirty things without even say more then a few senstances.

I could go on. Neither sex is perfect and we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Theres nothing as touching as when i see a single mother get on the buss with her son or daughter after school between her two jobs shes working for him/her. Women have a lot of love to give and are truly amazing in that way. When I originally said what I said I was keeping on topic and if you think in some way I look down on women it wouldn't be further from the truth.

I think that's true as well...just as I said on one of the other forums...I was reading this article about teenage girls starving themselves and becoming anorexic because the media paints a picture of how women should look...then guys look at these women...then they put girls down because they don't look like the women on magazines and porn movies. Damn shame ain't it.

Originally posted by Kool-Aid
I think that's true as well...just as I said on one of the other forums...I was reading this article about teenage girls starving themselves and becoming anorexic because the media paints a picture of how women should look...then guys look at these women...then they put girls down because they don't look like the women on magazines and porn movies. Damn shame ain't it.

Exactly, and what i was trying to get at is. Though the media is takling about women doing things to meet media images and such, men also do the same but its to please what they think is what women want. But women dont really know what they want, they just know what they dont want so men cant go on that. THey just haev to be themselves which is whateverone should be in the first place!

Sheit...I know what I want...