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ohiochica · 07-16-2003, 01:42 PM

what would be the hardest thing to deal with when trying to keep a relationship going strong? and would length of time in the relationship affect how much you would tolerate?

I am really confused as to whether this relationship i am in is worth it or if any normal person would say screw it and walk away. i am not going to just walk away but geezus i think at times it would be soooooooo much easier and less stress!

07-16-2003, 02:17 PM

I don't think anyone of us could really answer this.....i mean if it doesn't seem right in your head or heart...you prolly should get out of the situation....

ohiochica · 07-16-2003, 02:20 PM

no i was just wondering what you could not deal with in a relationship. i know for mysefl it would be cheating and drugs. my friend says long distance. i was just curious.

and i think teh above post was just me stressing way to darn much about issues neither of us can control so i am just gonan ignore it and take things as they come. things do seem right thats why i have continued.

ebpda9 · 07-16-2003, 02:37 PM

more detail please

DsBlu01CivEX · 07-16-2003, 05:46 PM

I don't care how long I'm in the relationship....as soon as I would find out that my man cheated on me, all hell would break loose. That's one thing I just CAN NOT tolerate and will not. If it came to things like addictions, if I were with the guy in a really serious relationship and it started while we were in the relationship, then I don't think I would bolt right away. I'd feel better if I did what I could to help him not make him spiral down more so. Now if he had the addictions prior to the relationship, I don't know that I would allow myself to get in that situation, but if I did, I'd probably still try and help him get past them. But I definitely would not deal with cheating.

07-16-2003, 06:07 PM

I'm a perfectionist. Sometimes it sucks, sometimes it saves my ass from a lot of trouble. That said, there isn't a lot of crap I would tolerate in a relationship. As soon as anything started going sour, I would bail. Cheating, drugs, compulsive lying, etc. etc. If I was with a girl for 100 years and she started cheating on me, she gets the boot. Time shouldn't matter.

ShagginJet · 07-16-2003, 06:33 PM

Communication should allow you to pretty much get through anything. If I don't have communication in a relationship then it's not really going anywhere anyways. Time isn't an issue. Cause I spent 3 years with someone doesn't mean i should spend another.

07-16-2003, 11:26 PM

depends on the circumstances

mylittlecivic · 07-21-2003, 12:12 AM

yeah communication, without it you just drift futher and further away, or not seeing someone you've got to see them every now and then or you'll just be a lonely stupid girl like me:o

Racing Rice · 07-22-2003, 08:22 AM

Cheating is really hard on a relationship. It usually kills any trust that may have been there prior to the act. Which eventually kills other things like communication, etc. Its pretty much a snow ball effect.

Same with things like drugs or some other addictions. They usually end up killing communication, trust, etc.

A relationship is hard! It takes a lot of commitment and dedication to make it work. If one of the parties isnt in it 100% the chances are the whole thing will go down the tube. If you feel that you cant deal with some of the things going on, and you cant come up with a compromise. Then your best bet is probably just to get out before you get in any deeper. When your dating its simple to get out. Nothing really gets affected much. But once you get married, or even worse, have kids then it will begin to take its toll on everyone involved.

BlackWolf · 07-22-2003, 09:13 AM

^^ My sentiments exactly.

Whiteclipse99 · 07-22-2003, 09:59 AM

I agree with the above comments on cheating. That's a no,no in my book. And if you decide not to break it off with them after somthing like that, who's to say they won't do it again since they got away with it the first time.

*pdiggitydogg* · 08-04-2003, 05:24 PM

cheating...every damn gf ive ever had cheated on me...b*tches...and did I? Hell no...not once...

I always tried to make things work out...communication and all that stuff

But...I never left em for it...probably should have though...certainly the last one...actually....they all left me! How does that work?

whoops...that wasnt meant to come out...

Anyway...
If thats what this is all about...clearly dont do what I did... If its somethin else...I got nothin because I dont know what it is.

ohiochica · 08-04-2003, 10:41 PM

how bout this one! i just found out my ex (were together for 5 years) cheated on me! i feel soooooooo stupid! i had no clue! grrrrrrrrrr........now that is not teh lovely news.........teh lovely knews is, he freaking cheated on me (when i was living with him) with an exotic dancer! needless to say i now have to get tested. i was stupid and didnt make him glove! that ashole had my life in his hands when he decided to cheat!!!!!

sorry i am still very livid yet......... god help him if i have caught anything!

08-06-2003, 11:20 PM

cheat once shame on you cheat twice shame on me, at least thats what ive heard. Never been cheated on to my knowledge

07-16-2003, 01:42 PM	#1
ohiochica Registered User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: youngstown ohio Age: 45 Posts: 848	whats it worth? what would be the hardest thing to deal with when trying to keep a relationship going strong? and would length of time in the relationship affect how much you would tolerate? I am really confused as to whether this relationship i am in is worth it or if any normal person would say screw it and walk away. i am not going to just walk away but geezus i think at times it would be soooooooo much easier and less stress! __________________ to all our military: my thoughts and prayers are with you, come home safe and come home soon. Ohio HST members please read this

07-16-2003, 02:20 PM	#3
ohiochica Registered User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: youngstown ohio Age: 45 Posts: 848	no i was just wondering what you could not deal with in a relationship. i know for mysefl it would be cheating and drugs. my friend says long distance. i was just curious. and i think teh above post was just me stressing way to darn much about issues neither of us can control so i am just gonan ignore it and take things as they come. things do seem right thats why i have continued. __________________ to all our military: my thoughts and prayers are with you, come home safe and come home soon. Ohio HST members please read this

07-16-2003, 02:37 PM	#4
ebpda9 Repost Wagon Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: over here Age: 43 Posts: 17,266	more detail please __________________

07-16-2003, 05:46 PM	#5
DsBlu01CivEX Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: York Age: 43 Posts: 2,542	I don't care how long I'm in the relationship....as soon as I would find out that my man cheated on me, all hell would break loose. That's one thing I just CAN NOT tolerate and will not. If it came to things like addictions, if I were with the guy in a really serious relationship and it started while we were in the relationship, then I don't think I would bolt right away. I'd feel better if I did what I could to help him not make him spiral down more so. Now if he had the addictions prior to the relationship, I don't know that I would allow myself to get in that situation, but if I did, I'd probably still try and help him get past them. But I definitely would not deal with cheating. __________________ "Oh, I have a goal. And it's to have no goals at all." http://www.myspace.com/kenike

07-16-2003, 06:33 PM	#7
ShagginJet Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 1,584	Communication should allow you to pretty much get through anything. If I don't have communication in a relationship then it's not really going anywhere anyways. Time isn't an issue. Cause I spent 3 years with someone doesn't mean i should spend another. __________________ RECENTLY UPDATED!!! 5-20-04 http://63.249.135.19/hdrive/car/index.htm

07-16-2003, 02:17 PM	#2
zm_dawg Posts: n/a	I don't think anyone of us could really answer this.....i mean if it doesn't seem right in your head or heart...you prolly should get out of the situation....

07-16-2003, 06:07 PM	#6
Sol's Eye Posts: n/a	I'm a perfectionist. Sometimes it sucks, sometimes it saves my ass from a lot of trouble. That said, there isn't a lot of crap I would tolerate in a relationship. As soon as anything started going sour, I would bail. Cheating, drugs, compulsive lying, etc. etc. If I was with a girl for 100 years and she started cheating on me, she gets the boot. Time shouldn't matter.

07-16-2003, 11:26 PM	#8
Shot 2 Hel Posts: n/a	depends on the circumstances

07-22-2003, 08:22 AM	#10
Racing Rice Project Combat Honda Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Highland,OH Age: 45 Posts: 7,985	Cheating is really hard on a relationship. It usually kills any trust that may have been there prior to the act. Which eventually kills other things like communication, etc. Its pretty much a snow ball effect. Same with things like drugs or some other addictions. They usually end up killing communication, trust, etc. A relationship is hard! It takes a lot of commitment and dedication to make it work. If one of the parties isnt in it 100% the chances are the whole thing will go down the tube. If you feel that you cant deal with some of the things going on, and you cant come up with a compromise. Then your best bet is probably just to get out before you get in any deeper. When your dating its simple to get out. Nothing really gets affected much. But once you get married, or even worse, have kids then it will begin to take its toll on everyone involved. __________________ Racing Rice

07-22-2003, 09:13 AM	#11
BlackWolf La Loba Loca Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Nor Cal Posts: 1,016	^^ My sentiments exactly. __________________ Does the noise in my head bother you??

07-22-2003, 09:59 AM	#12
Whiteclipse99 4th Gear Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: York, Pa Age: 44 Posts: 952	I agree with the above comments on cheating. That's a no,no in my book. And if you decide not to break it off with them after somthing like that, who's to say they won't do it again since they got away with it the first time. __________________ Don't smoke too much, drink too much, eat too much or work too much. We're all on the road to the grave -- but there's no need to be in the passing lane. -- Robert Orben

08-04-2003, 05:24 PM	#13
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 41 Posts: 10,579	cheating...every damn gf ive ever had cheated on me...b*tches...and did I? Hell no...not once... I always tried to make things work out...communication and all that stuff But...I never left em for it...probably should have though...certainly the last one...actually....they all left me! How does that work? whoops...that wasnt meant to come out... Anyway... If thats what this is all about...clearly dont do what I did... If its somethin else...I got nothin because I dont know what it is.

08-04-2003, 10:41 PM	#14
ohiochica Registered User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: youngstown ohio Age: 45 Posts: 848	how bout this one! i just found out my ex (were together for 5 years) cheated on me! i feel soooooooo stupid! i had no clue! grrrrrrrrrr........now that is not teh lovely news.........teh lovely knews is, he freaking cheated on me (when i was living with him) with an exotic dancer! needless to say i now have to get tested. i was stupid and didnt make him glove! that ashole had my life in his hands when he decided to cheat!!!!! sorry i am still very livid yet......... god help him if i have caught anything! __________________ to all our military: my thoughts and prayers are with you, come home safe and come home soon. Ohio HST members please read this

08-06-2003, 11:20 PM	#15
Shot 2 Hel Posts: n/a	cheat once shame on you cheat twice shame on me, at least thats what ive heard. Never been cheated on to my knowledge

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