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Hmm..yeah seems like you do have some issues with your friends. I agree with some of the stuff you said there, it's really not nice of them to do that. Did you try speaking about all these problems with them or did you post it here first? I mean, it's nice to get advice from others on how to confront certain issues, but sometimes, like someone else said, coming up to each of them individually and not accusing but just speaking about what the problem might be, might actually solve the problems. Try that, let us know how it goes. If you need any help in this, give me a shout and I'll try and help you out.
One question though, regarding the gf issue. Was that friend saying it in a degrading fashion? Maybe he was just joking around with her as if she one of the guys. I know I joke around with one of my friends gf sometimes but it's meant as more of a joke than anything else. Us guys joke around like that so I don't see why you can't do that with the gfs either. Anyways, try speaking, not accusing, with your friends and tell them each problem that your having, not just "you're not a good friend anymore". And let them give their side of the story on the issue also, without getting mad and saying something like "see, I knew you wouldn't understand". Because sometimes it might be a big misunderstanding with some of the things. And honestly, I dont' liek it when my friends don't talk to me about what problems they're having and I have to find out through other people that there's something wrong. Anyways, this is long enough as it is...good luck with all this.
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