Ok, so I had a very close friend who kept going back to a total asshole guy.....nobody ever understood it. I still don't.
However she did have a few issues. First and foremost, she never was happy alone, she always needed and consequently had a b/f. Second, I think she was, like many girls, always in search of a project. She enjoyed the challenge of trying to change a guy who was, by all others, considered unchangeable. She seemed to thrive on the challenge of changing a guy. He "had a good heart" and never "meant anything bad" and "he loves me" yadda yadda yadda. He was just a f*cking *sshole who didn't give a rat's *ss about her.....but she was something in him (a challenge....) and thought she loved him. She loved him about as much as a dolphin loves the peak of Mount Everest, but she "loved" him.....oh yeah....lots of "love" up in the house, but no love.
Some guys are *ssholes. Some girls are b*tches. To err is human, to not forgive a mistake is *sshole/b*tch in and of itself. However to put up with a mistake more than once is just begging for trouble.....
My general experience, though, is that nice guys DO finish last. I've heard it many times, from women especially, and now believe it to be too true. Girls are too confused to know what they want, they go for the "bad boy" and the challenge while oft complaining romance is dead and they can't find love......love and romance aren't in the "bad boy" and the challenge, they're in the nice guy who treats you how you want. I've known soooooo many girls who totally use the f*ck out of nice guys and treat them like such sh*t that I have no comprehension of why the guys stuck around (probably because the girls were hot....and guys like that, well, don't get the action often...) and they would seriously sit around and complain there aren't any nice guys around.....WTF?????? *SMACK* Be a woman.
Ok, I'm just ranting now......
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