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Ok...so I've followed this post for a while though I've not yet posted. Here's my $0.02...there is no such thing as an unapproachable or intimidating woman. That is, unless she's got a boyfriend who's visible or she's acting like a total bitch. Men use this excuse as a defense mechanism. I don't care what guys say, they use this excuse to avoid rejection. If we feel like we can talk to you, we will. But much like many of you ladies, men have self esteem issues too. If we've been shot down a lot we're much less likely to talk to that pretty girl at the end of the bar. My main beef is that somehow it all comes back to the guys. Why can't women be the instigators and come and talk to US for a change. It's always got to be the guy buying a girl a drink or initiating the conversation. You women want to be treated equal? Start acting equal. Chat up a guy or buy HIM a drink. That makes you much more approachable if there's a slight hint that you're interested. I know, I know...there will be some guys out there who take this the wrong way, but the right guys won't. And really...do you think you're going to find the love of your life in a club or a bar? This is why 50% of all marriages fail. You hook up at a night spot, have a few dates and all of a sudden you're soulmates. I don't give a shit what anyone says, 99% of all human beings will NEVER find a suitable mate in a bar. If you're just out for a good time and meet a guy at a bar...that's cool. Nothing wrong with the occassional casual sex. But don't go there expecting Mr. Right...you'll just find Mr. Right Now. So why concern yourself with what guys in bars and clubs think? True happiness often comes when you least expect it and from a most unlikely source. So keep your eye on that guy at work that sizes you up from time to time but won't say anything or that friend of a friend who always seems to smile around you but doesn't talk much. You'll get much more out of that than some wannabe stud you pick up at a bar on ladies night.