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okay let's see (btw thanx for a new thread finally)
in terms of a girl being approachable, that really depends on the guy and his goal with the girl. okay let's look at the different goals.

hit it= he's looking for someone crazy and hopefully wasted. appearances are not really important unless he's trying to either impress his friends or boost his self esteem.

conversation it=some one easy to approach and talk to. the surrounding enviroment will play an important role in this. if its in the middle of the club we are not expecting a stimulating conversation, so we'll be looking at starbucks or maybe while shopping. somebody who is alone is an ideal target, friends make it difficult to get to know someone. we'll shy away from the really prissy and go for the one who looks like they'd rather read a book.

girlfriend it=guys aren't that naive to think that they'll find their next gf at the club, so don't go there looking for your next bf. guys like what they feel comfortable with just like girls do, so get togethers and parties at friend's houses are where we'll look(at work also). we figure that if they are hanging out with people that we know and associate with, they can't be that different from us, so we won't be that worried if you come dressed in all black with pink hair since we probably have the same interests to have the same friends. we probably won't look to talk with the one who is the life of the party, but rather the one who is her friend who doesn't say much but throws a cute smile at us now and then(and of course someone who isn't turned off during our 3rd keg stand of the night)

so girls if you see a guy that you like, just don't act turned off around him or play hard to get, cuz we'll just say whatever and move on to the next one. yes we are rather slow to pick up on signs that you give, so you can always make it easier by just flat out saying it. no we won't think you're easy or anything, its flattering to us too.