[02_Si]

Originally posted by zm_dawg
first of all...i don't know why i feel like writing this...either i'm venting....or want to enlighten ya'll....or am just proud and happy for what i have.
Anyways...In the beginning of my junior year of high school I met this girl and we first talked and hung out at the county fair. She came to my school as a transfer at the very end of the previous year and never really talked. Anyways we started talking a lot and eventually I could tell I was falling for her. She was/is one of the prettiest girls in the school and everyone liked her. She never did anything previous to me with a guy in our school to the point where people were questioning her about being a lesbian ha. I took the challenge upon myself. Once we started talkin and realized we liked one another...well....it was different i was like well i could come over this and that...but there was always for not being able to...After our first kiss..i found out why...She was born in Europe and she's muslim. It's against the religion to do stuff w/ someone outside of it. She told me it'd be hard and thats why she hasn't pursued anyone. She told me it won't work and I took it upon myself to make it work. The first year...she literally picked me up and we'd hang out at my dads house(divorced) cause he was gone at work or we'd park and just talk and do whatev. The first year had it's ups and downs. She went back to Europe for a month and did stuff with someone, while I also did stuff with someone....all because she didn't leave with us on good terms. So since Last august or so...it's been anything since...we've come such a far way and I've learned so much about myself, her and her religion. We love each other now and she's going to be graduating. I just turned 19 she's turning 18 soon. We talk about the future and it's hard for both of us, cause we really believe we're meant to be.....I'm really in love..and so is she...but she doesn't know how we could ever move on beyond high school love because of her parents. They're always sayin don't make mistakes and she's been told about such things for a long long time. She's been in the states since she was 4. She can't think about telling her parents anything even though she finds herself very unhappy and can't see herself marrying someone of her own religion and live the life. I was wondering I guess does anyone know of anyone in similar situations who has gone against the family....or broke it to them and let'em know how happy they are. We're so happy together and I can see us going very far...I can picture everything, but I can't have high school love forever and sneaking around..I tell her we can't worry about it and just need to cherish the time we have together. All i think is...she really..has grown up like everyone for the most part and I can't imagine a mother not wanting her beatiful daughter to go on and live a life that her family wants her to live if it's not what she wants. I imagine they want her to live at home and work in their family restraunt and take it over, but thats not what she wants. From the beginning when i realized how special she was to me, i've always said I'll do whatever it takes..and I plan on doing this. I can't imagine me stopping a relationship that has been so good to the both of us because of her parents and/or religion, but never would I ask her to leave her family to be with me it's just so hard to comprehend how a family could make their daughter lead a life or be someone she really isn't and doesn't want to be, but eventually does because she fears for herself because of what she thinks her family will do or eventually react to the news....
Sorry for babbling...i just feel pretty strongly about doing and becoming everything you want. She's almost 18 and there's so much time ahead of her and for myself....and I just can't imagine allowing her to do something and lead a life that isn't her own.

Hmmm... love... religion... sounds confusing... BUT... not that confusing. What about you ZM DAWG, what religion are you? If you're Christian, then I wouldn't advise being with someone who is not. I am not saying not to love her, or that it will be easy. I'm sure she is a really good person and probably deserves the best. HOWEVER, without God in someone's life, then all the good they've done and all the good things they deserve are a lie. The Lord should be your # 1 PRIORITY in life -- No excuses. I've known God my whole life and I wouldn't even think of dating someone who didn't have a place with HIM. The hardest thing in the world to do is to preach.. especially to people who are bias. So I'll spare you as much I can. But, I do think religion and love go hand in hand. It's a whole lot easier to bring someone away from God than it is to bring someone to Him. Trust me, I know. Z-DAWG, if you're a Christian and you really believe in God, then think about what you're children are going to grow up believing. As it says in the bible, it's your responsibility to teach your kids about God and about Christ. Withougt Christ, there is no salvation. And without God, there is no meaning. At least that's how it is for me. It may not be for your or her religion, but when the time comes, that won't matter. The only thing that will matter is what you did in life with God thru Christ. That's something you can't overlook. If it were me in your situation, I'd talk to her about it, explain how you feel... Don't ask her to change, leave that to her. You both might part from one another and it might be hard as hell to keep your feelings in check, but the thought that God has something better for you is more than enough to keep going. It says in scripture in the book of Job "will you accept good things from the Lord and not troubles?" Meaning, life is hard, but there are rewards for following God as well as hard times. Just because hard times are happening, doesn't mean it isn't good. Man, I feel like I'm babbling... sorry.. just wanted to voice my opinion. Good luck for you, man.