I read about half of your replies.
Saying that love doens't take much effort is just plain dumb. I think most people get convinced they're in love when some guy/girl sweeps them off their feet.
Sorry, that's NOT love.
When you love someone, you put their interests BEFORE yours when making a decision. If you're lucky, they will do the same for you. Anybody who says that putting their partner's interests before their own takes little or no effort is a liar.