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Originally posted by 02_Si
Wow mt.biker , that was pretty deep stuff. I agree with it though. I had a friend who had a girlfriend for a year and things went from good to really crappy. For about two months all they did was fight. They fought all the time and one day he got sick of it and broke up with her. I told him it's ok that he did that because he was feeling guilty. There's always that guilt when you break it off with someone. But sometimes you have to realize that it's not because you hate someone that you break up with them.. you just have to realize that sometimes two people just aren't right for eachother. That doesn't make them any less of a person. Loving someone should be the easiest thing in the world. Even when times are hard. If negative things can outweigh your love for someone, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate your feelings for them.
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Yup, totally agree with you there. The last girl i dated (6ish months back) started out great, we were both busy doing out thing. I gave her space she gave me mine and then something changed. She became really needy and was around me 24/7. Then we started sleepign together and she being so needy stopped being an issue, for a bad reason but none the less. Well when I went to cali for xmas she wanted to call her everyday, so as the nice boyfriend I did.
Turns out once a day for 30ish minutes wasnt' enough. Then she would ring me on my cellphone and left some really bad messages as to why i didn't want to pick up the phone and how cali girls are and what not. The girls I know from cali would never encourage me to cheat but whatever. I realized i didnt miss the girl. But when I got back home she was waiting for me and the sex pulled me back in, yes I am a weak man.
Well things went from lots of sex with cute but demanding gf to no sex, with ever more demanding who stopped taking care of herself. Needless to say it wasn't healthy for both of us, i very much cared for the girl and wish i could have stayed friends with her; which i tried about she pulled out the sex card once and we stopped being friends since.
I realize the feelings I felt in the first few months of my relationship with her were what i was basing the relationship at its end and worst times on. I realized that it wasn't right for me to be with someone who wasn't my equal and who i couldn't lean on but she felt free to lean away on me. It was the turning point in my life as to how i viewed relationships and with gf's.
Wow theres my life story, hope someone learns from that.
sorry for the typos, it was written real fast.. i mean really fast!