what defines a slut?

[mt.biker]

Well i'm just leaving for work and reading over some of these posts and i'm wondering what people think it takes to be a slut.

Is it a the number of guys a girl has slept with? The time it took her to sleep with them? Do they have to be out of a relationship to count towards her slut factor? Does this also apply to guys?

My ex had slept with some 10guys (1 being me :( ) in 5-6 years, i considered her a slut.

Your thoughts?

[Kyle]

Well...I don't think the time/sex factor really makes someone a slut...maybe they just like sex...i thik people who leave relationships just to have sex with someone...or cheating on someone...i dunno i just can't really explain it...

[Racing Rice]

slut Pronunciation Key (slt)
n.

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.
A woman prostitute.
A slovenly woman; a slattern.


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[Middle English slutte.]
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sluttish adj.
sluttish·ly adv.
sluttish·ness n.
slutty adj.

slut

\Slut\, n. [OE. slutte; cf. OD. slodde a slut, Icel. sl["o]ttr a heavy, loglike fellow, slota to droop.] 1. An untidy woman; a slattern.

Sluts are good enough to make a sloven's porridge. --Old Proverb.

2. A servant girl; a drudge. [Obs.]

Our little girl Susan is a most admirable slut, and pleases us mightly, doing more service than both the others. --Pepys.

3. A female dog; a B*tch.

[msvtec14]

That's a really good question. I think what makes a slut is a girl that just does not have respect for herself. My first time was when I was 17. Say I slept with 4 guys over the course of a year since that time. Lets say they were guys that I dated briefly for say a month or two. I'll be 21 in about a month and a half so we'll just round up and say I'm 21. 4 x4 would come out to 16. 16 guys, yeah that's a lot right? But I know that I'm not a slut. These are guys that I dated. Stuff a.k.a sex is going to start to happen after several weeks. It just happens as you get more comfortable and in tune with a person. This really isn't my case because all the guys that I start to see turn out to be tools. But it's just an example of why you shouldn't make a judgement on someone because of a number. Girls that do things sexually with a guy because he has a nice car or will buy her stuff if she puts out is obviously a slut. Girls that do it for attention are sluts. If I go to a party on Sat and hookup that's not big deal. But if I went to one Fri and had done the same thing, that would be slutty. I guess a lot of it is just how a girl presents herself and how much self respect she has.

[incubus86]

I"m 22...2 girls in 22 years....i don't think i'm a slut.:D

[Kyle]

Originally posted by msvtec14
[B.Girls that do things sexually with a guy because he has a nice car or will buy her stuff if she puts out is obviously a slut. Girls that do it for attention are sluts. [/B]

YES, thats it...kinda what i was trying to say.

[msvtec14]

Originally posted by incubus86
I"m 22...2 girls in 22 years....i don't think i'm a slut.:D

What a good girl you are :D just kidding ;) I'm assuming that Mr Rogers is one of the 2? No but seriously, I have a lot of respect for your number because there are sooooooo many guys that just bang because they feel like it and that's not fair.

[incubus86]

thank you.
to me the best part of sex was/is the cuddle after.:yes:

[msvtec14]

You're making me feel alone now :no: That's sweet. Here we go again with the wrong reason for wanting to be in a relationship. I'm going to go home and cuddle with my pillow. Maybe that'll take some of the edge off. :D

[incubus86]

Thats what i thought, so I went and bought a couple bigger pillows, doesn't work as well as i'd like it to, but then again it is better then nothing

[Racing Rice]

Try a warming pad.. Itll make you feel like theres body heat there.:D Sorry, Im just playing..

[incubus86]

**Mental note***
heating pad

[msvtec14]

LOL. Do you know if they have vibrating heating pads? just kidding. :D

[Kyle]

lol

[incubus86]

I'm sure that we could come up with something

[msvtec14]

How weird would that be if you went over a girls house and she had a warm, vibrating pillow?

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by msvtec14
How weird would that be if you went over a girls house and she had a warm, vibrating pillow?

I thought thats what the tickle me Elmo doll was for..:paranoid: :crazy:

[incubus86]

Originally posted by Racing Rice


I thought thats what the tickle me Elmo doll was for..:paranoid: :crazy:

good call

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by Racing Rice


I thought thats what the tickle me Elmo doll was for..:paranoid: :crazy:


LMAO.


a slut is a slut and i have no more coments :crazy:

[msvtec14]

Hmmm. Now I know why I got one of those as a gift.

[incubus86]

just squeeze it with your thighs and you're good to go, don't even have to use your hands. :eek: :crazy: :bandit:

[msvtec14]

OMG. I was not at all prepared for that post. I just got some pizza crust lodged in my throat because I read it and then had mental images and was a little shocked. :D

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by msvtec14
OMG. I was not at all prepared for that post. I just got some pizza crust lodged in my throat because I read it and then had mental images and was a little shocked. :D

You know, you can get fired for mental images like that at work dont you..:paranoid:

[incubus86]

;)

[msvtec14]

Ok well, do me a favor. Just don't tell anyone ok? I might be skating on thin ice for always using the phrase "Write that down". :D No, but I really do say that. People get mad.

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by msvtec14
Ok well, do me a favor. Just don't tell anyone ok? I might be skating on thin ice for always using the phrase "Write that down". :D No, but I really do say that. People get mad.

:D :D Glad to know Im not the only one.. How do they expect you to remember if they dont write it down.. duh!

[mt.biker]

see one thing i have trouble with his seeing a girl whos been around a bit, doesn't that get to you after a while?

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by mt.biker
see one thing i have trouble with his seeing a girl whos been around a bit, doesn't that get to you after a while?

Yes it does me, thats why I married one that hadnt.. ;)

[msvtec14]

I'm the same way about that too. I would never be able to be with someone that's been around a lot. When you're just banging to bang all the time because you feel like it, that doesn't really show that you feel that it's sacred thing. And it really is! I don't really care how corny that sounds either. I speak what I feel. :)

[incubus86]

It is special, thats why i've only been with 2 people

[msvtec14]

Originally posted by incubus86
It is special, thats why i've only been with 2 people

As great it would be...not everyone thinks like you :cool:

[incubus86]

thats right...i'm different.

:crazy: my mom says its ok to be different.:crazy:

[msvtec14]

Mom always said, "Don't play ball in the house". Eh, my mom gets mad at me for being different sometimes because she does not like a lot of the music that I listen to. But that's only when it's loud.

[incubus86]

she also likes it when you let the air conditioner run when it doesn't need to be :D :D :D :D :D

[msvtec14]

Yeah but I like for it to be really cold so I don't get too hot with the vibrating, heated pillow. No, seriously though I want it cold because I love getting all bundled up in the soft blankets.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14
Yeah but I like for it to be really cold so I don't get too hot with the vibrating, heated pillow. No, seriously though I want it cold because I love getting all bundled up in the soft blankets.

chicks that like to cuddle ROCK!

[msvtec14]

Thanks, I've been doing it since I was little. I'm a pro at it. I get all sorts of bundled up like ET does in the basket.

[msvtec14]

Thanks, I've been doing it since I was little. I'm a pro at it. I get all sorts of bundled up like ET does in the basket.:yes:

[TonitrusEN]

Originally posted by incubus86
It is special, thats why i've only been with 2 people

Yes it is a special thing, even to me.. and thats why im still a virgin (yes a 19 year old male virgin holy shit).. even thought i guess i have had chances, it just doesnt seem right.. and i haven't been in any serious relationships... oh well... itll happen when it happens, life doesn't revolve around sex..

ps my tires still rub

[msvtec14]

Good for you. In many ways, I still wish that I had waited. That can't be an easy thing, especially for a guy when you have had chances.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by TonitrusEN


Yes it is a special thing, even to me.. and thats why im still a virgin (yes a 19 year old male virgin holy shit).. even thought i guess i have had chances, it just doesnt seem right.. and i haven't been in any serious relationships... oh well... itll happen when it happens, life doesn't revolve around sex..

ps my tires still rub

dude i wish i had wait, only been with one girl but she was a slut... now i wish i could have shared that with my wife. But its not gonna go down like that.. first i'm not a virgin anymore nor am i getting married ;( ;(

[TonitrusEN]

*hugs his brotha from anothah mothah... a man hug none the less *hits while hugging*

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by TonitrusEN
*hugs his brotha from anothah mothah... a man hug none the less *hits while hugging*

at least your still a virgin, i think society has to change, theres nothing cool about marrying a girls whos ****ed 10guys. but yet sex is encourage.. whos encouraging it?

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by TonitrusEN


Yes it is a special thing, even to me.. and thats why im still a virgin (yes a 19 year old male virgin holy shit).. even thought i guess i have had chances, it just doesnt seem right.. and i haven't been in any serious relationships... oh well... itll happen when it happens, life doesn't revolve around sex..

ps my tires still rub


so i'm 22 and still a virgin, did i say that loud ? :crazy: i just got hooked up on other things and never bothered getting a gf, but it's all about to change (read my other thread), and if does not work out i'll be doomed for the rest of my life :o

[Grip72]

Ok i feel like a little bit of a young dude..I'm 18 in like 3 days or something. I slept with my ex-girlfriend when i was 16 (about 2 months before i was 17) and we had sex for about a year (all at once too! jj) no but seriously, does that make me a slut? WE probably had it about 80 times, me no joke!
(oh yeah, she was 17 at the time, gotta love older women)

[cstrom80]

Accord17, I don't think it makes you a slut. Once you've been with someone for a little bit you can, IMO, have sex all you want whenever. If you do it a lot that just makes you horny. HAHA.

[msvtec14]

When it comes to love or sex, I don't think that you can ever set an appropriate time frame or even a number. It just all about when you feel that it's right and that you're ready. If you meet someone and fall in love, I don't necessarily think that you have to wait until you marry them to have sex. As long as you're doing it for the right reasons, I don't see anything wrong with it. If it's your belief or what have you to wait and that is something that you have a lot of faith in, that's ok. In terms of my religon, that's what the belief is but there just came a point in time where I was just ready to be at that place with my boyfriend. My first boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. I waited for the first 2. I knew that I was ready before those 2 years went by but I still felt like I had to wait because of what I was told and the way that I was raised. Like I said, in certain respects I do wish that I had waited because it would be an amzing thing to share with the person that I marry. But in others, I'm happy with the decision that I made because of a lot of beautiful expieriences that I've had in my 2 serious relationships. That might sound corny but I don't care.

[incubus86]

Very nicely put.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14
When it comes to love or sex, I don't think that you can ever set an appropriate time frame or even a number. It just all about when you feel that it's right and that you're ready. If you meet someone and fall in love, I don't necessarily think that you have to wait until you marry them to have sex. As long as you're doing it for the right reasons, I don't see anything wrong with it. If it's your belief or what have you to wait and that is something that you have a lot of faith in, that's ok. In terms of my religon, that's what the belief is but there just came a point in time where I was just ready to be at that place with my boyfriend. My first boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. I waited for the first 2. I knew that I was ready before those 2 years went by but I still felt like I had to wait because of what I was told and the way that I was raised. Like I said, in certain respects I do wish that I had waited because it would be an amzing thing to share with the person that I marry. But in others, I'm happy with the decision that I made because of a lot of beautiful expieriences that I've had in my 2 serious relationships. That might sound corny but I don't care.

that sounds great if you are able to wait 2 years, i wait just over a week with my ex. First and last girl i have sex with before marriage. I found it made everythign more complicated, i got two scares because she thought she was pregnate and hadn't gotten tested before she told me i almost flipped out... stupid girl! Not to mention what if the person you sleeping with has something and never tells you? what then? your gonna be stuck with one big problem if you infect your next parenter because you dont know you had something.. this goes more for girls because guys can typically look at their dicks and see whats up. Girls on teh other hand have to be seeing a doc to find out whats up. Not to mention another fact, girls will get lose after a lot of sex... blah i'm just bitching
i'm gonna find me a simple girl who hasnt' been around the block... then maybe life will start to fall into place.
time to hit teh bike! grrr

[msvtec14]

"Trying to find a relationship" or "Looking for the right" is like when your waiting for a pot of water to boil and you're just sitting there staring at it. I think I've said that before. And then a really wise person said to put some salt in it because that makes it boil faster :) I don't know. I just don't believe in going out and looking for a relationship. But if you want to, make sure you add some spices :) One major downfall to having an intimate sexual relationship with someone is when you break up. You're so used to having it in your life. Then you're single again and sleeping with a heated, vibrating pillow :D

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14
"Trying to find a relationship" or "Looking for the right" is like when your waiting for a pot of water to boil and you're just sitting there staring at it. I think I've said that before. And then a really wise person said to put some salt in it because that makes it boil faster :) I don't know. I just don't believe in going out and looking for a relationship. But if you want to, make sure you add some spices :) One major downfall to having an intimate sexual relationship with someone is when you break up. You're so used to having it in your life. Then you're single again and sleeping with a heated, vibrating pillow :D

nah i'm not going out to find one but one day i'll find her.. or maybe she'll find me. I guess i ment that more as a term.. i'm not activitly looking for anyone right now just hope that one day i do find the right girl. Girls i meet in my day to day life tend to have issues! major issues and thats not cool

[msvtec14]

It's sad to say but I think that everyone has issues in life. It's what you've learned from them and what kind of person they have made you is what is important. Me personally, I've had a lot happen in my life and it forced me to grow up a hell of a lot quiker than I wanted to. I had this picture perfect family but behind it all someone had a serious drinking problem. I went through hell and back for 8 years because of it and I had to take care of my family while all this was going on. I could get more into it but I won't. Some really bad things happened during all of this. It got to the point where I had to move out. Having to grow up so fast made me realize that there is no room in life for stupid drama and bullshit. Like I said I went through hell and back but I would never in a million years change my past because I wouldn't be who I am today without it. Everything fell into place eventually and now everything is more than all good. I know what I won't take from people. I know what I've gotten through. That gives me a light at the end of the tunnel when I'm going through a hard time now because I know no matter what, it always will get better. I want to write a book. :yes:

[incubus86]

lifes a *****....then ya live it

[msvtec14]

Yup. And you can't move forward if you swim in water under the bridge. :)

[incubus86]

depends on how deep the water is doesnt it?
or how fast the current is moving...
i don't understand that comment at all

[msvtec14]

Ok, you know how when something is in your past and it's over and done with you refer to it as water under the bridge??? I'm just saying that you can't dwell on anything. :)

[incubus86]

gotcha

[DsBlu01CivEX]

I'll be 22 in like 2 months and I'm still a virgin. I don't have a problem with it either. Actually I get a lot of respect for it. It's not something like I'm waiting until marriage or anything like that...I just haven't found the guy that makes me feel special enough for me to give that to him.

Oh as for the topic at hand though...I agree with msvtec that It's not necessarily the # of guys a girl has slept with but the fact that she does it to get attention. She uses her body to get "love" from someone that is just usin her to get a lil booty. Sluts to me are typically girls with incredibly low self esteem.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
Oh as for the topic at hand though...I agree with msvtec that It's not necessarily the # of guys a girl has slept with but the fact that she does it to get attention. She uses her body to get "love" from someone that is just usin her to get a lil booty. Sluts to me are typically girls with incredibly low self esteem.

i know know the type.. that was my ex

thank you everyone for clearing this up :)

[ebpda9]

Wow, denise and melissa "really put the dot over i"

[msvtec14]

It's quite refreshing to hear a lot of you guys/girls beliefs in terms of waiting and your standards. Don't get me wrong, my friends are good people. I wouldn't surround myself with dirtbags. But man, a lot of them get AROUND. They're always at the bars or we go to all these parties and they just get wasted and do all these random guys because they're drunk and they have on beer goggles and I don't respect that at all. Sometimes, they bust on me because I'm NOT like that. Hey, I'd rather be totally sexually frustrated than have someone call me a slut or think less of me because I gave it up. :bandit:

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14
It's quite refreshing to hear a lot of you guys/girls beliefs in terms of waiting and your standards. Don't get me wrong, my friends are good people. I wouldn't surround myself with dirtbags. But man, a lot of them get AROUND. They're always at the bars or we go to all these parties and they just get wasted and do all these random guys because they're drunk and they have on beer goggles and I don't respect that at all. Sometimes, they bust on me because I'm NOT like that. Hey, I'd rather be totally sexually frustrated than have someone call me a slut or think less of me because I gave it up. :bandit:

ok they sound like SLUTS!

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by msvtec14
Hey, I'd rather be totally sexually frustrated than have someone call me a slut or think less of me because I gave it up. :bandit:

hey i agree with youy on that, and i'm the same way, but a lot of my friends/coworkers don't think the same way, so i get a lot of crap. They don't seem to think like this. i know looks play a part in getting to know someone, and you can be the hootest in the world, but if your IQ is the same as my shoe size forget about it. i'm not saying that i'm a genius or anything, but hey i want to have a nice conversation that can last. i don't want any coneversations like "hi ! wanna fu*k ?" if that's how you think you can forget about it. as for the time lenght you should wait i don't think there is a time limit. you should wait untill you are comfortable with eachother and be on the same wave lenght. i hope i made some sense in what i said.

[msvtec14]

Yup. What you said made sense. I personally don't care if my friends make fun of me for NOT being a slut. They think that they're making fun of me and calling me prude but in they're just making themselves look worse and me look better. But they think it's cool what they do. Or that the three of them have all slept with a few of the same guys. WHAT is up with that. Not even sloppy seconds. That's like sloppy thirds :pukey

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by msvtec14
Or that the three of them have all slept with a few of the same guys. WHAT is up with that. Not even sloppy seconds. That's like sloppy thirds :pukey

what ? that is whack:eek:

[mt.biker]

this tread is making me sick!

[incubus86]

Originally posted by msvtec14
WHAT is up with that. Not even sloppy seconds. That's like sloppy thirds :pukey

thats so sloppy, you'd need a mop and bucket to clean that up.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by incubus86


thats so sloppy, you'd need a mop and bucket to clean that up. :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey :pukey

[DsBlu01CivEX]

I've lucked out that my friends think along the same lines I do. I don't have slutty friends...girls or guys. So, I don't get sh!t from anyone about the way I think or things I do. I'm upset to hear that girls get beer goggles though. Never once (no matter how much I've drank) have I fallen to the death and destruction of the beer goggle.

What do you guys/girls think about girls that dress provocatively? Does this make them sluts/hos...whatever you wanna call them?

I personally think if the girl has the body to show off wearing provocative clothing then she should. Not on a consistent basis or anything, but if she's goin out clubbin or to a bar or party, then I don't think it's a bad thing to wear a lil more revealing clothing. As long as she still carries herself in a classy way. There is a way of wearing revealing clothing in a nice classy way and there is a way of wearing the same type of clothing in a "WT" kind of way. What do you guys think?

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
I've lucked out that my friends think along the same lines I do. I don't have slutty friends...girls or guys. So, I don't get sh!t from anyone about the way I think or things I do. I'm upset to hear that girls get beer goggles though. Never once (no matter how much I've drank) have I fallen to the death and destruction of the beer goggle.

What do you guys/girls think about girls that dress provocatively? Does this make them sluts/hos...whatever you wanna call them?

I personally think if the girl has the body to show off wearing provocative clothing then she should. Not on a consistent basis or anything, but if she's goin out clubbin or to a bar or party, then I don't think it's a bad thing to wear a lil more revealing clothing. As long as she still carries herself in a classy way. There is a way of wearing revealing clothing in a nice classy way and there is a way of wearing the same type of clothing in a "WT" kind of way. What do you guys think?

the more skin the faster i turn my head....

to be honest i really haven't meet a nice girl who can balance it. If i see a girl whos showing alot of skin i tend to think she gets around. Granted not all girls are like this, but i guess the question is why do you dress like that? if its for attention where does it stop?

seeing how i'm a guy i just dont understand the female mind, but you girls do some odd things to get our attention.. not complaining or anything just some of its really odd!

[DsBlu01CivEX]

I dress "provacatively" once MAYBE twice a week, and it's only to go out to the club. But I won't act on my "sexual frustrations" with some random guy I meet. That might make me a tease for wearin the clothes and then not puttin out...but then call me a tease and walk away. I'd much rather be called a tease than a slut....cuz every single guy and girl is a tease at some point in their lives.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
I dress "provacatively" once MAYBE twice a week, and it's only to go out to the club. But I won't act on my "sexual frustrations" with some random guy I meet. That might make me a tease for wearin the clothes and then not puttin out...but then call me a tease and walk away. I'd much rather be called a tease than a slut....cuz every single guy and girl is a tease at some point in their lives.

it truly is better ot be a tease then a slut, not tomention every guy wants to knock up a girl, you could really get around quick!

[msvtec14]

Yeah, the only time that I will wear anything that shows a little more if it's at a club or a bar. But I balance it out. Less is more and moderation is the key. It's all about making people wonder. If I wear a shirt that's a little revealing, I'll keep it very simple with my pants. Nothing too tight or low. If I'm rocking a skirt, everything up top will be totally covered. You can't do both at the same time. :)

[cutiepy701]

IMO a slut has nothing to do with the number of people you sleep with. I think It is more like a frame of mind. I have slept with 14 people in my life. I am 20 and started having sex when I was 16. In my mind that isn't that much. Because you can talk to a person for a month or two, and like missy said, just feel comfortable to have sex with them. I too wish I would have waited. But I have had great experiences.

I have (or had) 3 girlfriends who were total sluts. We'd just be driving around and they'd see a fine guy and be like "man I'd fu** him in a second". Or we would go to the bar, and my one friend would actually pick out a cute guy and make it her mission to sleep with him that night. That is so gross, and a slut to me.
It really has alot to do with your mind frame.

And mt biker, just because you have slept with alot of guys doens't mean you are loose
:no:
Just speaking from personal experience here;)

Guys can be just as big of sluts as girls if not more. But when guys sleep with all sorts of girls they get mad props, and we get called sluts. Why can't it just be a mutual thing???

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by cutiepy701
IMO a slut has nothing to do with the number of people you sleep with. I think It is more like a frame of mind. I have slept with 14 people in my life. I am 20 and started having sex when I was 16. In my mind that isn't that much. Because you can talk to a person for a month or two, and like missy said, just feel comfortable to have sex with them. I too wish I would have waited. But I have had great experiences.

I have (or had) 3 girlfriends who were total sluts. We'd just be driving around and they'd see a fine guy and be like "man I'd fu** him in a second". Or we would go to the bar, and my one friend would actually pick out a cute guy and make it her mission to sleep with him that night. That is so gross, and a slut to me.
It really has alot to do with your mind frame.

And mt biker, just because you have slept with alot of guys doens't mean you are loose
:no:
Just speaking from personal experience here;)

Guys can be just as big of sluts as girls if not more. But when guys sleep with all sorts of girls they get mad props, and we get called sluts. Why can't it just be a mutual thing???

double standards my dear! gotta love em:bandit:

[msvtec14]

I'm not a feminist. I don't want to be. Nor will I ever be. We're all just people. The more some of these women sit here and try to defend out rights, I personally just think it might make us look a little more inferior. I'm not trying to offend anyone, I'm just not big on activists. Or the Lifetime chanel. But seriously, double standards suck. I hate them. I deal with them constantly, especially with a 19yr old little brother that can do more than I can. He has a streetbike. I want one but I can't get one because I'm a girl and according to my dad, "girls aren't supposed to" have bikes. And, if I get one I'm not allowed to live here at my house. That's bullshit.